Expectations…is it better to have them…or not? Human nature is
such that we tend to hold silent expectations of others. That they’ll do, say
or acknowledge something. Then, when that poor unsuspecting soul fails to
deliver upon our secretly kept expectation of them, we have the audacity to get
upset. Or feel hurt. Or worse, we don’t react at all other than to hold a
grudge.
Not sure about others, but I’ve been guilty of this irrational
behavior a time or two. And each time I find myself ensnared in this web, I
scramble to extricate myself, vowing that I’ll not hold others to standards of
behavior or actions—my expectations of them—in the future…unless…I’ve made
clear those expectations ahead of time and
they’ve been agreed upon.
So this brings me to wonder. Is it better to float our way
through life, expecting little and being pleasantly surprised when things
happen our way? This isn’t to say that we shouldn’t strive for the things we
want or need. Or that we shouldn’t set goals to live by. Just that perhaps,
life might be easier, certainly a lot less stressful, if we don’t harbor ill
will towards those poor unsuspecting souls who don’t manage to deliver upon our
silently kept expectations of them. And the best way I know of to avoid falling
into this pitfall is to not hold expectations in the first place.
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