The facilitator to my writing critique group once explained
how she never manages to se bad drivers and how her husband always seems to spot them. As a group, we discussed the possible
reasons for this. Then my
facilitator summed it up rather nicely by stating that when one looks for
negative things, they’re likely to find them. She, however, doesn’t actively look for bad drivers or other
negative things, so tends to be blinded to their existence.
On one hand, this seems a blissful way to live. Course, one could also end up in a car
collision or worse with this mentality.
LOL.
But seriously, I like the mentality of my facilitator. How she focuses her energy on the
positive rather than looking for negative and trouble when doing so is oft
unnecessary and unproductive.
Over the past several weeks, I’ve thought a lot about that
night when my critique group, facilitator and I all shared our thoughts on this
subject. As I’ve pondered and
smiled over how positive my facilitator is, I’ve made myself more aware of what
others look for. Are they actively
seeking the negatives? Or are they
devoting their time and energy to more positive avenues? And of those I’ve observed, which ones
seem to be happier? My
findings weren’t surprising—least not to me. The individuals who seek the positive rather than dwelling
on or actively seeking life’s negatives were far more relaxed, seemed more at
peace and smiled far more than the others. And for me, that’s conviction enough that my facilitator has
the right mentality.
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