I
write a lot about friends. Their
importance. How they shore us up. Allow us the opportunity to give back and
better ourselves. But what I don’t spend
a lot of time talking about is the importance of learning to be comfortable
being by one’s self.
For
many, this concept is equated to fingernails down a chalkboard. They question why anyone would ever want to be alone. My response is that in order for a person to
be as whole as possible, they must first learn to walk around in their own
skin. Feel completely at ease with who
they are. Accept their
shortcomings. Praise their
accomplishments. Take solace in the
quiet solitude that comes only when one is left to listen to the beating of
their own heart without outside interferences.
Many
feel incomplete when not associated with or surrounded by a constant gaggle of
friends and loved ones. For them, to be
left completely alone is terrifying. For
it’s during those alone times that they’ afforded the opportunity to take a
close look at themselves. And many
aren’t comfortable with what’s revealed.
It’s
during these moments of awakening that the person has a few options. They can take the time to get to know and
feel comfortable with themselves, enacting any changes that might be necessary
for them to evolve into better human beings.
Or they can flee themselves and instead drown in the busy hustle and
bustle of a conglomerate of friends where they’ll have no chance of
introspection. However, if neither of
those appeal, the person can concoct a volatile combination of the two that
will keep them fluctuating at such an intense pace their head will spin.
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